Breakups can be so hard! We can help you get through them.
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You may feel awful after a breakup. In fact, scientists say breaking up may have the same effects in a person's brain as getting off a drug like cocaine! But time really does help heal wounds.
Sometimes, people blame themselves too much for a breakup. Just because this relationship didn't work out doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It just means this wasn't a good fit. Try to remember what's great about you.
Keep doing things you love. This might include hanging out with friends or writing in a journal. Learn ways to cope when you're feeling sad.
Give yourself a break. If the relationship is over, try to move on. Don't check your ex's social media accounts or find excuses to be in touch a lot.
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Here are some tips to help make a breakup easier — and kinder.
- Remember your rights. You deserve to have the kind of relationship you want. It's OK to break up if this one isn't working for you.
- Remember the other's person's feelings. Say what's true for you, but gently. Avoid blaming, complaining, or yelling. If you're feeling angry, try to calm down before talking.
- Plan ahead. Think about what to say so you're not on the spot. You might practice with a trusted adult.
- Face the person. Breaking up online or by text may seem easier, but think about how that must feel. Plus, when a person can't see your face or hear your voice, there's a greater chance of misunderstandings.
- Leave others out. Don't spread nasty gossip or blab on social media. Meanness likely will lower other people's respect for you — and your respect for yourself!
- Think back. Was there anything good about this relationship? Tell your partner what worked.
- Think ahead. What can you learn from this about the kind of relationship you'd like to have in the future?
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Page last updated November 03, 2015